TODAY WE ARE TALKING ABOUT TODDLERS AND KIDS EVEN AS YOUNG AS 2 YEARS OLD WILL LIE.MY DAUGHTER WHO IS 3 IS BRUTALLY HONEST ABOUT MOST THINGS " MOMMY, YOUR TOO BIG FOR MY BARBIE CAR" " MOMMY, I TOOK THE CANDY FROM YOUR PURSE AND ATE IT" ..YOU GET THE PICTURE BUT EXPERTS SAY TODDLERS LIE BECAUSE THEY ARE SELF SERVING ( REMEMBER AS BABIES IT WAS THE ID COMPLEX AND ALL ABOUT THEM). FIGHTING WITH A TODDLER WHO DOES NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT A LIE IS IS A LOSING BATTLE..READ WHAT THE EXPERTS SAY
Such self-serving fibs are the first kinds of lies many young toddlers try out. As any mom of a toddler or preschooler can tell you, kids as young as 3—sometimes even 2—will tell very simple lies, denying they've done something or in order to gain something for themselves.
It doesn't make sense to punish toddlers for truth bending, since they don't get that what they're doing is wrong. "If a two-year-old pulls the cat's tail and says that her imaginary friend did it, the best response is to say, 'The cat has feelings, too,' " says Elizabeth Berger, M.D., a child psychiatrist and author of Raising Kids With Character. "Don't get into a wrangle to get the child to admit that she was the one." An even better strategy is to avoid the showdown in the first place. "Rather than asking 'Did you break the vase?' say, 'Look, the vase got broken,' " says Dr. Brody. "If you make an angry accusation, you'll get a lie."