MOST MOTHERS WOULD NEVER ADMIT THAT THEY FAVOR ONE OF THEIR KIDS MORE THAN THE OTHER BUT IT HAPPENS...AND I MEAN THE HEALTHY WAY NOT A MOTHER THAT ABUSES ONE KID I'M JUST TALKING ABOUT IN GENERAL FAVORS ONE CHILD...SO THIS IS WHAT THE EXPERTS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS
Now researchers say they know why mama has favorites: The anointed kid is typically the one mom thinks will take the best care of her later. According to researchers, mama's thinking generally remains fixed, even as she gets older.
The findings were published online in the Journal of Marriage and Family.
Investigators at Purdue and Cornell universities recently revisited subjects who took part in the multi-year Within-Family Differences Study, funded by the National Institute on Aging.
At the start of the study, the social scientists interviewed several hundred women age 65 and older about family connections — and specifically about their relationships with adult children.
One aim of the study was to identify factors that led moms in general to eyeball one child as the so-called favorite, the one most likely to care for mama later.
At the time, investigators found factors such as emotional closeness, gender similarity, and compatible attitudes were strongly associated with which child the moms identified as the probable caregiver.
Researchers stated back then that their findings would be useful for elder care and planning experts who needed to take into account a parent's view of the "likely" caregiver.
Years after the initial discussions with the study mothers, investigators called on participants again and found the moms still named the same child as the likely caregiver.