Mommy Moments Monday: What to Do if you Catch Your Child Watching Porn

This may be the hardest conversation you have with your kids but it is one of the most necessary conversation..Please embrace these tips:

1. Don't react impulsively

The act has been done. Nothing you do is going to undo this. So, even though it is the hardest thing in the world to do, you have to manage this with a cool head. Do not react immediately. If you catch them in the act, tell them that it is inappropriate and you would be discussing it with them. But, do so in a non-threatening manner.

2. Discuss pornography with your child

Use those talking points and discuss pornography with your child. It is not the time for euphemisms. It is better to be honest, and use appropriate biological terms to discuss the process.

Step 1:Tell them that you know about their exposure to pornography.

Step 2:Tell them that it is OK, and they should not be ashamed of discussing sex. And it is natural to be aroused by watching pornography. Most of the children want to talk about sex, but don't know whom to approach. As parents, you are one of the best sources of satisfying your child's curiosities, not how actual sexual intercourse happens. 

Step 3:Tell them it is not how actual sexual intercourse happens. Share your views about sex. Stress on the emotional aspect of physical intimacy. 

Step 4:Convince them that pornography is rarely a depiction of the actual thing. Their body is going to change and chances are that it will not look like what they saw in the video. Tell your child that the body parts he or she might have witnessed are by no way a standard against which their self-esteem should be measured. 

3. Encourage follow-up questions

Trust me, he/she is brimming with questions. Encourage your child to ask them to you instead of somebody else. Answer them as directly as you can. Find the accepted terms for the various acts he/she might have seen. It will help you keep the discussion sensible.

4. Make it clear that it is not OK to continue watching pornography

At the end, don't forget that your child is just a child. So, stress on the fact that there is much more to watch than pornography. There is an appropriate age for the consumption of alcohol. Likewise, there is an age after which, it is 'OK' though not recommended to watch pornography. 

5. Curtail future exposure

The next thing to do is investigate the source. Find out how he/she came across it. Was it an internet search? Did he/she accidentally stumble across it while watching something else? An easy way is to search the browser history. This will tell you exactly when it all began, and how much your child has been exposed. 

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